Terri A. Contributor
Many children have doubts and fears and may feel anxious from time to time affecting their mental and physical development. They may also feel hesitant about opening up to their parents, as they feel like no matter what they say they will never be heard.
Studies show children are uncomfortable sharing their feelings with their parents. Here are the most repeated answers from both girls and boys as to why kids feel uncomfortable and struggle to talk openly with their parents:
- “They won’t understand.”
- “I don’t want to bother them.”
- “It’s awkward.”
- “We’re not that close!”
Significant developmental changes take place when going through teenage stages of life. Youth experience mental and physical transformations while trying to figure out who they are and who they’re becoming. As a parent it may be difficult trying to recognize the child you thought you once knew, but establishing a healthy and positive relationship is vital to building trust and understanding their needs and mental wellness. Make sure you’re creating repeated opportunities for discussions to take place. After all, it isn’t just about talking to your child, but about talking with your child.
Talking and listening to children can do many things, such as:
- Establish a bond giving them the confidence to share their thoughts
- Help them form better relationships and build a sense of worth
- Build trust in initiating conversations beneficial to both parties
- Allow children to feel safe and secure in expressing themselves
Feeling connected and greeted is indispensable to a child’s positive adjustment, self-identification, and sense of trust in others and themselves. Parents should be open to talk with their children about an array of topics, whether it is a feeling of anger, joy, frustration, fear, or anxiety. Try to understand what’s behind your child’s words by watching their facial expression and body language. Letting them share their hopes, dreams, and fears will help you gain a more profound understanding of your child. Though you may lead a busy life, taking a small amount of time to bond will allow them to feel heard and valued.
Overall, opening the line of communication between you and your child is a decisive way to make sure you form an absolute relationship for the rest of your lives.
